"Should I give up on my husband?" (Warren Buffett's late wife saw him as a challenge.)

Reader says...

I simply LOVE your blog!

However, reading your blog makes me a bit regretful.

I got married a year ago to a very kind and loving man.

He is very obliging and we never had an argument, ever.

I decided he was the one after a short courtship.

He is not rich and doesn't make a lot of money at work but it doesn't bother me because I earn my keep.

I did not think that it could be a problem until a few months into the marriage.





He is very caring and sweet but he doesn't seem to know much of anything and doesn't seem interested in learning.

A big problem is his inability to understand basic money management.

I thought he understood budgeting but had trouble with impulse buying but by now I don't think he understands.

I feel bad for flaring up but he would literally spend the very last dollar of his salary by end of each month.

When I tried to show him how bad his financial situation was, he would hug me and said I was worrying too much.

I love him but I am also thinking of giving up.







AK says...

Welcome to my blog. :)

First, I must say that I mostly blog about personal finance matters.

I am definitely not an expert on relationship matters and I am definitely not an expert on marriage.

So, based on this, I know if I were in your shoes, instinctively, I would dump that guy like a sack of rocks.

Too heavy a burden to be carrying around for even a moment, I would not dream of dragging the sack around for life.

Yikes!

Who threw a shoe at me?

Who? Who?





Let me continue.

However, there is a Chinese saying:

爱屋及乌
"Love the house and love the crows on the roof."

It is about taking the good with the bad.

So, although, instinctively, I would dump that guy, rationally, I would urge you to consider the big picture.





If not being financially prudent is his only shortcoming, maybe, you shouldn't give up.

"Love the house and love the crows on the roof."

As long as the number of crows are not too many, it isn't too bad unless you care about appearances.

However, if the crows are so numerous that the roof might collapse under their weight, you should run for the hills.





I always tell people that investing in stocks is a little like getting married.

We could also say that getting married is a little like investing in stocks.

There is bound to be some rough patches.

For example, Warren Buffett's late wife, by his own admission, saw him as a challenge. ;)

I am just borrowing someone else's wisdom here.

I don't have any in this area.





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