How do I protect my assets before marriage?

My last blog post probably didn't sit well with most female readers, if not all, even though it is quite a common view among the guys. 

I know, sexism is alive and it is very much the case for both guys and girls, if I may add.

Then, a reader brought up the issue of prenuptial agreements.

Source: HERE.

What is a prenuptial agreement or prenup?

A prenuptial agreement, antenuptial agreement, or premarital agreement, commonly abbreviated to prenup or prenupt, is a contract entered into prior to marriage, civil union or any other agreement prior to the main agreement by the people intending to marry or contract with each other. The content of a prenuptial agreement can vary widely, but commonly includes provisions for division of property and spousal support in the event of divorce. (Source: Wikipedia.)

I have always thought that marriage should happen because a couple want to have children. If they do not wish to have children, they don't need to be married. Marriage becomes a want in such a case.

Of course, in Singapore, a couple might get married just because they need (or want) to get a HDB flat but stay childless. Uniquely Singaporean.

In any case, I feel that there should be trust before a couple embark on such a major decision. If they don't trust each other, then, why get married and have children? Indeed, not just why but how?

I am mostly a pragmatic person but I dislike prenuptial agreements because I think they are like the thorns on roses. They are ugly things in what should be beautiful.

However, like the thorns on roses, I have come to accept that they could be necessary for some people, the rich people. See, told you I am pragmatic.

Having said that, would girls marry guys who want to have prenuptial agreements? 

Indeed, would guys want to marry girls who want to have prenuptial agreements? 

After all, it could be a case of a rich wife and a poor husband. 

See? AK is not sexist.

"Women are like the rake in poker."

I was chatting with a reader on FB about saving money and I gave him a link to one of my old blogs: http://singaporeanstocksinvestor.blogspot.sg/2011/12/common-piece-of-advice-on-saving.html

I was scrolling through the comments section and found this:

Reader: Hah, while I definitely agree with what you say about the tips on drinking water from coolers, for the large part, it is a very male perspective. Women are like the rake in poker, once you are dating/married, its not easy to get the lady to agree on such things. They like to eat at fancy restaurants and so on and so forth. Once that happens, its not easy to save.

AK: I think a third or at least a quarter of my readers are females. Ahem... I am not going there. ;p

I don't know how many of us guys have faced or are facing this issue. 

Of course, if we are the "OK with spending money" type, I don't think this is really an issue but if we are the "AK the giamsiap fellow" type, then, it could be a problem.

For those of us who don't have the ability or the willingness to spend big money on dates, what do we do? 

For me, it is quite simple, junk the date! No date, no problem.

Remember those days?



OMG! There is a website that teaches girls how to make guys buy stuff for them!

"How To Get A Man To Buy Me Things."

Guys, be careful. OK, since the video says click on the link for more advanced tips, maybe, girls should be careful too.

Now, I am going into hiding.