I might be putting my head on the chopping board with this blog post but this is not something I have not said before: "If there is not enough money for a wedding, the two people do not have enough money to be married."
So, when I saw this topic being discussed in Facebook and, shortly after, read an article on how to prepare financially for marriage, the writing bug bit me.
The article is titled "10 Tips on What to Prepare Financially for Your Upcoming Marriage".
The first line in the article goes: "If you have finished school, worked for a few years and is attached, your most likely plan next in the agenda is to get married."
This is like someone who translated his emotional needs into action without sending his emotions through a mental filter first! A more prudent thing for the couple to do is to ensure that they are financially stable and have the financial capability to be married.
"It is OK to rent (a flat) when you get married."
No, it is not. I don't think I need to say why.
"If you are going to borrow to pay that renovation, try to borrow from your own parents first (hopefully they can lend you interest free!)."
Forget the renovation. If you do not have the money to renovate, don't.
"You may wish to postpone investments until you have fully satisfied that you have set aside sufficient budget for your marriage."
This is like putting the cart in front of the horse! Consumption before investment? Whatever happened to delaying gratification?
"Finally, do spend some amount of money engaging a good professional wedding photographer. Years later, the only way your kids can know about your wedding is through photographs. Make sure you have both hard and softcopies of these photographs."
I am not curious about my parents' wedding and they do not see the need to tell me anything about it too. I wonder how many are curious about their parents' weddings or how many people would see it as important to educate their children about theirs?
If you ask me, true love does not need a marriage certificate. Of course, if you want to have kids, then, please get married. Marriage, in my opinion, is to give the children legitimacy. Unless the family is not part of mainstream society, children born out of wedlock will have many issues growing up.
Two people planning to get married and thinking of borrowing money for everything in the process should not be getting married. Obviously, at least to me, they are not financially prepared for it.
Not enough money to be married.